Science of Us, the New York Magazine blog that has previously taken us into the minds of a horse fucker and a 58-year-old virgin, published an interview today with an 18-year-old who claims to be in a sexual relationship with her father. They are also engaged to be married!
"Genetic Sexual Attraction" (GSA), explains Science of Us, is the term for "intense romantic and sexual feelings" felt by some after reuniting with an estranged biological relative. According to The Guardian, GSA occurs in 50 percent of cases where estranged biological relatives meet again as adults, which sounds absolutely crazy and I refuse to believe it.
Nevertheless, it (allegedly) happened to these two lovebirds. The interviewee's father got in touch with her when she was 17, after having zero contact with her since she was five. Here she is on how they reignited their relationship:
My mom said that he didn't want to have anything to do with me. But she was very controlling and kept me under Fort Knox–like conditions. She's had my Facebook password since I've had an account. One day, after I got my Facebook privileges back, he added me as a friend. At first, I figured it was my grandpa because they have very similar names. I thought, Maybe grandpa got techy?
She says she didn't date very much when she was a (younger) teenager, but the little dating experience she had was, hmm, troubling:
In fifth grade I dated a boy for two years. But one night he got drunk and had sex with a girl who ended up pregnant. It fucked everything up. I told him he had to go and be with this girl and take care of the kid.
She ended up falling asleep with a cigarette in her mouth and their house burned down, so she left town with the kid and never came back. I supported him through that and we ended up half-ass dating, then my mom found letters we had written to each other about making out. She said things were getting too serious and sexual and took me out of class and homeschooled me for a while.
Did she feel an instant attraction upon meeting her father? Ah, funny you ask—she did!:
It was so weird and confusing. I was seeing my dad for the first time in forever but it was also like, He's so good-looking! And then I was like,What the hell are you thinking? What is wrong with you? I saw him as my dad but then also part of me was like, I'm meeting this guy who I have been talking to over the internet and really connecting with and I find him attractive.
When they finally reunited, she stayed with him for five days. On the first two nights, he slept on the couch; on the third night they both slept on the floor, she with her head on his chest:
The fourth night rolls around and we ended up on the floor again. This time we actually cuddled. When he woke up, we were spooning. I didn't know this at the time but later, after we admitted our feelings, he told me he had had "morning wood" and had gone to fix it.
(She explains he just went to the bathroom to pee.) She also lost her virginity to him:
There's a reason I lost my virginity to him — because I'd never felt comfortable with any other man. It was insanely sensual. It lasted for about an hour and there was a lot of foreplay. We both had orgasms. We are so similar so it's so easy to sexually please each other. For example, we both hate neck-biting. I've never been in a more passionate, loving, fulfilling situation.
Here she is on being bullied:
Mostly my weight and the fact that I wasn't pretty enough. But when my dad and I started dating I became more confident, and it's funny how much more attractive that makes you feel.
The father and daughter are currently engaged to be married (her dress will be black):
Yes. I want it to represent our uniqueness, so we aren't doing a white wedding. The color scheme is black and purple, and we are both going to wear Converse tennis shoes. He's wearing jeans and a nice dress shirt. He says he's not wearing a bow tie, but it's my wedding and I am saying that he is.
On whether they will have kids together or adopt:
We'll have kids together
(!!) Of course, that leads to the question of whether she fears potential genetic problems:
I wouldn't risk having a kid if I thought it would be harmful. I've done my research. Everybody thinks that kids born in incestuous relationships will definitely have genetic problems, but that's not true. That happens when there's years of inbreeding, like with the royal family. Incest has been around as long as humans have. Everybody just needs to deal with it as long as nobody is getting hurt or getting pressured or forced.
On whether they'll tell their kids that their father is also their grandfather:
We've decided that most likely we won't. I don't want to give them any problems.
And, of course, on whether her father is physically her type:
Definitely. He's alternative and has piercings and tattoos.